Valentine’s Day. What’s it to you?

Friends! Family! New People! Old People! Lovers! Haters – I just had to!

I’m pretty sure you’ve heard it one million times this week but that’s not going to stop me! “Happy Valentine’s Day” – well Belated Valentine’s Day. Image

*snickers*

My word what a week it has been. My ears are ringing and my eyes are stinging from all the

“I don’t have a Valentine…Forever Alone”

and the

“Screw Valentine’s Day, it’s overrated!”

and of course

“Awww, best boyfriend everrrrrr!!!! Valentine’s Day Rocks!”

In other words…I think we can finally lay Valentine’s Day to rest…for the next 360-what what days. Right? Wrong! Because this post here is another Valentine’s-related post.

“Agh Chipo, but why?”

Well because I’m a curious person. What has that got to do with anything? Lots! Before I continue – I’ve had two cups of coffee and I am sensitive to caffeine and sugar – hence the abundant expressionism and enthusiasm. Anyway.

Like I said a few lines before – I am a curious person. I enjoy understanding people and why people do things. I like to know people’s reasons for their actions, beliefs, opinions, and statements. Why? Well because it allows me to understand situations. Instead of being highly ignorant and judgemental, I’d rather be more understanding and a little less judgemental. Anyway, for the past two weeks I’ve had a particular question on my mind:

  • What is the square root of pi?

Kidding.

The actual question was:

  • Valentine’s Day? What’s it to you?

We could argue end on end on whether that’s a question or two questions but no! No time for grammar Nazi’s and anal-retentive spell-checkers –  sorry in advance for offending any over-eager error detectors.

So I asked myself that question. “Valentine’s Day, Chipo? What’s it to you?”

Want the answer? Here it is (Really…click it!):

https://mindmymindbut.wordpress.com/2013/02/13/why-valentines-day/

Anyway… I wasn’t satisfied. One does not simply accept one’s own opinion and move one! (That’s a CB quote right there!). So I decided to ask a few people what Valentine’s Day was to them. I received a few answers – I did only ask a few people after all. I also happened to garner some of these views from social networks.

“Valentine’s Day is nothing but a day dedicated to consumerism and mindless infatuation mistaken for ‘love’.”

I had to agree to an extent. Some people took the day way overboard…but who am I (we) to judge? If it’s love, it’s love. If it’s mindless infatuation shem. As for consumerism…well…can’t disagree there now can I? A moment of silence for the maxed out cards and empty wallets. Image

Onto another one!

“It’s just another day to me…the clock keeps ticking!”

I found this particular tweet/status rather amusing because suddenly the sentimentality and affection soon took over this person’s updates when they seemed to receive gifts. It’s true though…the clock keeps ticking…dogs keep barking…life continues to go on.

Last cynical one:

“Valentine’s Day is a day where side chicks finally realize what they are…”

A moment of silence for all the “small houses” who saw the light. Another moment of silence for those who still remain in oblivion. As for the guys and girls who managed to send gifts to all their lovers…

Moving along swiftly!

Another interesting view came in the form of a poem from a friend of mine – Ernest Mackina. Food for thought indeed! Please do check it out:

http://mackinaernest54.blogspot.com/2012/04/fourteenth-of-feb.html?spref=fb

Hey! Check it out!

 

The points of view continue:

“Valentine’s Day to me is about love. It’s a day of love and when you have a dude, well it’s about you both appreciating each other and showing each other just how much you care for one another. It’s not all about the gifts and receiving a rose. It’s more than that. A gift and a rose are just icing on the cake. It’s about the romance, atmosphere and the color red. On Valentine’s Day it’s when you think of what you have been through with your loved one – or ones – and celebrate your togetherness. Yep that’s about it. But the one thing people forget is that there is more to Valentine’s Day than a bouquet of roses.”

What Valentines Day means to me?…Valentines Day is a day for me to spend time with my family and the people I love. It is a chance for me to show the people I love how much I love and appreciate them. I also use it to appreciate and be grateful for the people I have around me who truly care about me, and always have my best interests in mind. Therefore, Valentines Day, to me, is a day to spend with people who make you a better person and to show the people I love just how much I appreciate them!”

This one, I have to admit, was my favorite one:

“Valentine’s Day is everyday. If its a day spent with the person you love or like being around then why spend it on just 1 day that comes every year. We should spend Valentine’s Day everyday, that comes every year. The story behind Valentine’s Day is the same role play as Romeo and Juliet… The love Valentinus had for Asterius’s daughter. The love they shared… Now if it’s the love they shared that means we should share our love like they did and not on 1 specific day. Everyday…”

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So I’ve given you a few quotes from a few people and you’ve obviously agreed and disagreed with them. Strange enough…I read them all and I agreed with all of them.

Valentine’s day is a day where consumerism wears its Sunday Best and goes frolicking about town. People spend ridiculous sums of cash on their loved ones. It is a day where mindless infatuation roams the earth. But…and I do mean but…these purchased goods are an expression of affection. Come now, you felt good when you got that rose. You felt sour when you didn’t get a gift. Sure people do throw out the cash…but what about that one person who bought a simple rose because they felt inspired to do so on the day? What about the hand-made gift a child made for their crush?

As for mindless infatuation…”each to their own”. What is it to you whether someone else is in love or not? Who are you? Judgerus – supreme court judge of love? This where I say sit down and mind your own business and let other people learn. You were like that once, weren’t you? I can already feel the resentment! Hehe!

Valentine’s Day is a day of revelation to some. Some learn that their lover wasn’t the one after all. Some learn to be grateful. Some learn to be selfless. Some learn that they weren’t the “main” person after all. 

It’s a day to show everyone you love that you love them. Not just on that day but everyday. Family. Friends.

It’s a day to reflect on and celebrate the times with your significant other.

It’s a day there to show you that love is there. I’m sorry but in this world full of cynicism and trouble – I don’t mind a soppy lovey dovey day like this!

But face it: whether you like it or not. V-Day has an effect on you in one way or the other. Hate it or love it. It evokes thought. It inspires emotion. It makes you do something -be it proclaim or protest.

That’s all for now!

Lot’s of Love!

Chipz

xX

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Why Valentine’s Day?

Writing this post was exhausting. My brain is going to shut down on me by the time I’m done. The moment February came, I knew. I already knew that I was going to blog about for the next couple of weeks. What kind of writer would I be if I decided to forego the topic that is on every person’s tongue, Twitter, and Timeline: Valentine’s Day. I’ve been frantic all week. For the first time since I’d started this blog – I was blank. I had no idea what I was going to write.

My mind was putting me on pressure. “No Chipo, you can’t write about anything else! It’s Valentine’s Month! You can’t just bypass that and act like no one will notice!”

I kid you not, the past few days have not been pleasant. I’ve been looking for inspiration everywhere. Music. Movies. Twitter. Facebook. Books. Radio. TV shows. You name it. So, Wednesday night came and I decided to try to write my weekly post. I was blank. I was border line frantic. Suddenly, a very harsh – yet highly necessary – thought interrupted my frenzy.why

“Why? Why all this fuss?”

Why do we make such a big deal about this day we call Valentine’s Day? Why do we go to the ends of the earth just to make sure that we please a significant (or even an insignificant) other on this particular day out of the 365 (and sometimes 366) days of the year? It feels as if human beings store up all of their emotions and sentimentality as they wait for February 14 to arrive. We’ve lost sight of the purpose of the day. I’m not going to explain it. Google it. Use your internet for something other than filling your social profiles with your views on and plans for Valentine’s Day.

This year seems to be the year of going all out because I’ve already heard some ridiculous demands and requests some people are planning for their significant other. Now I understand why so many relationships go down the cosmic drain after this highly commercialized day has passed.

WAIT!

Before you start to hurl comments at me like “Chipo, you’re such a cynic!” just wait! I am not anti-Valentine’s Day. Heck, I don’t even think I’m for it. What I’m all for is expressing how you feel not because of what day it is but because you genuinely want to. Go and buy those one thousand roses. Book that wonderful dinner. Rent out those beautifully sappy romantic movies. Do it because you care for the person. Don’t do it because “it’s Valentine’s Day”. Why wait for a publicly decreed day to show your affection? Come on now people…we’re way past the days of being global sheep – or at least I’d like to think that.

As the week goes by and we near that fateful day, take some time to reflect on your plans, demands, and requests. Ladies – don’t make outrageous requests so that he can “show you that it’s real”. If it really was real, you wouldn’t need to resort to emptying his wallet just to make sure that he’s serious about you. Appreciate the gift he gets you! The fact that he was thinking about you – says a lot. There’s no need to pull out that “Gold-Digger Today” card. Let’s try enjoying the moment for once, huh? For the right reasons too. 

Men – Valentine’s Day isn’t your ticket to getting her in bed. I’m being real here. Don’t rely on this one day to woo that lady. Don’t fight with her either just to get out of doing something for her. Man up. – I can already feel the resentment coming my way!

Couples, don’t go all out on that one day and then resume with being dysfunctional. Be real.

Single folk, don’t go down the hater route. You know, the whole – “I’m so over Valentine’s Day. Who needs it?” facade.

Actually scratch that. It’s okay to dislike Valentine’s Day. Hey that’s your choice. But there’s no need to belittle those who do enjoy the day. You’ve got your choices and they have theirs. It’s life. Smile!images (1)

Before this turns into a soap box, what I’m trying to say is: Just be real. Take it as every other day. It’s okay to do something special, but don’t throw your entire life into it – there is, after all, February 15…16…17…and the rest of the year to go through. So before you make your plans, take a bit of time to think:

“Why now? Why Valentine’s Day?”. Know what you’re doing before you do it. Have fun. Enjoy the day with friends, family, your husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend. But make sure you let the person know that affection is constant everyday. If you can love them on Valentine’s day, you can definitely love them any other day.

“”When you love someone, you love all of them… you gotta love everything about them, not just the good things but the bad things too. The things that you find lovable and the things you don’t.” – Estelle, Valentine’s Day (The movie)”